While I may come across as very confident to some people.  Those that know me best (all five of them) know that I am filled with an incredible amount of doubt and fear.  I like to know how to do things, before I have to do them.

 

Therefore; when entering an area of uncharted territory, I tend to over-research, over-analyze and overthink which leads to paralysis by analysis.   But that causes me a great deal of grief.  In my constant pursuit of happiness, or the search for my next breakthrough idea, I have seen great success, followed by great failure, followed by a paralyzing fear of doing anything and ultimately causing me to just dip my foot into the water on future endeavors instead of jumping all-in like I previously would have.  I have been hurt, scarred, damaged, and have been working my way to healing. I will never be the same, but I will have some badass battle wounds to prove I tried! If you are not careful, this scenario will only breed doubt and fear.  You have to know that before moving forward.

Doubt

Let’s talk about doubt first.  When you give doubt an inch, it takes 50 miles.  It is constantly the forethought when anything adventurous or brave comes to mind.  It is that little voice that slowly eats away at the excitement and replaces it with the inability to take action.

 

When doubt enters the mind, it sounds a bit like this….

 

 

  • Will this really work?
  • What will people think of me?
  • Someone told me I should do this, are they purposely trying to make a fool out of me?
  • Nobody is going to pay any attention to what I am doing anyway.
  • What if……

 

 

Now, does that sound familiar?  How many times in your life have you had that same conversation with yourself, or worse, with someone else about an idea they had?  Self sabotaging is one thing, but to sabotage others is a whole different level.

 

After that goes down, you will be wrapped up in a web of disbelief, hesitation, and skepticism. All of that circles back to the original problem. Doubt.

 

The problem with this line of thinking is all those questions you have, all that curiosity, cannot be quenched until you actually DO whatever it is that you want to do.

 

The “F” Word

No, I don’t mean that  “F” word.   What we are talking about here is Fear.  It is brutal, it is ugly, it is one of the most powerful forces on Earth.  Think about it, wars happen, oppression happens, sadness, death (both physical and of your dreams) happens every day because someone (or people) have allowed this to creep into their minds.  This can be overwhelming.  It can be the only thing that is standing between you achieving your dreams.

 

If doubt leads you down the path of destruction,  then fear is the weapon of choice.

Quick Story:   

Think about the number one goal for people at the beginning of the year… to lose weight.  I am going out on a limb, no research here, but I am going to say that 50% of you reading this would like to lose 26 pounds.  That is a reasonable goal for most people.  You may say you want to lose 50, or 100, but no one scoffs at 26 pounds.  People are always looking for quick fixes, and don’t celebrate the small victories.  (We will get to that later).   If you were to lose .5 pounds a week, just half of one pound.  You would lose 26 pounds over the course of a year.  That is an extremely feasible goal.

 

That would be an achievement worth celebrating!  You would not have lost those 26 pounds if you had let fear and doubt take over in the beginning.  

 

Or let’s say you found an incredible Network Marketing opportunity.  You’ve tried the products, you love them.  You have seen the compensation plan, and it makes sense.  You are presented with the opportunity to join.  What goes through your head?

 

 

  • Will this really work?
  • What will people think of me?
  • My friend told me I would be good at it, what if he/she is lying to me?
  • Nobody is going to pay any attention to what I am doing anyway.
  • What if……

 

Most fear is based solely on the “what ifs”. Here’s a new spin on “what if”.

 

 

  • What if this really works? (What do myself or my family stand to gain?)
  • What if people think of me when they need ____________?
  • My friend told me I would be good at it, what if he/she is right?
  • What if people pay any attention to what I am doing?
  • What if……

 

The only way to fight off doubt and fear is to take action!  It may only be one step at a time, it may be two steps forward and one back, but it is still forward progress.  Not matter what you goal is, you can get there, one step at a time.  

 

All the excuses in the world won’t change one simple fact: that fear is a sign to do whatever it is you fear – and do it quickly… I am scared most of the time. However, I refuse to feed my fear with time and allow it to get stronger. I opt instead to get things done quickly. -Grant Cardone

 

I have seen the bottom, now I am ready for the top.